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"I really think a champion is defined not by their wins,
but how they can recover when they fall."
- Serena Williams
"Five Small Steps for Beating Burnout" [via Marie Claire]
"Kathy Hochul’s rise in New York spotlights the barriers to women becoming governors" [via The 19th]
"3 Lessons I Learned from Making a Difficult Career Choice Mid-Pandemic" [via Entrepreneur]
Here are the things we are doing, reading, listening to or heard about
that we think can help you on your path—whatever that path may be!
If you need a reminder of how to incorporate self love into your daily life, this blunt (and sometimes comical) book will get you right back on track. Click here to buy!
As the world continues on its rollercoaster back to normal, tune into this episode of “Goal Digger” to structure your “new normal” and stay on a productive track.
These are the ladies we follow that, in short, make sh!t happen.
Don’t you want to fan girl with us?
Mimi Moffie (@mimimoffie) is a folk tale character designed by Nina, an artist originally from Curacao but currently living in Amsterdam. Mimi’s magical world is about self-love, taking a stand, not taking any shit and always having fun! We want her in our #girlgang
One Girl Travel (@one_girl_travel) is Alessia, a solo travel enthusiast and life coach who ismpowering women to live the life they desire. We’re here for that!
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the weekly mantras, horoscopes or astrological insights to help you attract what YOu what.
Remember - the “Be. Do. Have.” methodology
BE: actually BE the person you want to become - everything comes out of BEING - Be generous, be creative, be kind, be loving, be joyful and be YOU!
DO: you will DO what the person that you want to become would do
HAVE: you create in your reality what you focus on
It’s okay to not find yourself until you’re 30
the Younger star, Molly Bernard, shares how the show transformed her
and the importance of self-worth
we were first introduced to molly bernard on tv land’s unsuspecting hit show younger, where she has played the role of Lauren for 7 seasons: the feisty publicist. after debuting, the show quickly gained popularity, and consequently so did molly’s character—one of the first pansexual characters publicly portrayed on television.
One thing we know… Molly is a force on the screen…off-screen, she’s not much different. molly describes herself as a “complicated, driven woman who is fiercely pursuing her dreams [while] trying to be a stable and reliable human being.” we think it’s working for her; she’s breaking barriers in hollywood and she is seriously fierce af.
we got the chance to chat with molly about the struggles of being in hollywood, the importance of self-worth, the reality of anxiety and the mentors that have helped her along the way.
the void: what’s it like playing one of television’s first pansexual characters and why is it so important for the mainstream conversation?
molly: what is it like? it’s a delight, it’s a privilege. i don’t take it lightly and yet it’s not all that lauren is—the writer’s are really smart in that regard. people notice her more for her quirkiness and her boldness way more than for her sexual orientation, and that’s a win as far as queer representation on television.
it’s incredibly important for the broader audience to see that a queer person can just be a cool, awesome young woman and she’s not leading with the fact that she sleeps with women or men. or non-binary people. she sleeps with people regardless of their gender and that’s cool. there is an episode early on where lauren’s mom just says “she’ll sleep with anything that moves, we love her.” it’s obviously a face definition of pansexual, but her parents just love and accept her for who she is and that’s crucial.
tv: in reading some of your past interviews, there was a quote that stood out to us: “thank god we’re on this show that’s boldly f*cking representing the queer community in a light-hearted, yet, fierce way!”
mb: that’s how i feel queer representation should be. the thing our show does really well is it treats everyone equally and boldly. it is a light show, but everything happens in a size 72 font, rather than at a subtle 12. it’s so f*cking rad to be on a show where those are the guiding principles. that’s a treat.
tv: one thing that has intrigued us about lauren’s character is how she loves herself fully and is completely comfortable in her own skin, which is not always an easy place to get to. how do you think she accomplishes that?
mb: she’s got some divine sense of self-worth. playing her has been a gift because it’s helped me channel a little bit. i think it starts with her parents; not a lot of characters on the show have parents other than lauren and i think they are there for a reason. i think part of the reason they are there is to show us that she is unconditionally loved. i think that’s where her self-worth comes from.
tv: what is the importance of women supporting women for you?
mb: that is one of the great joys of being a woman: supporting other women. it’s unlike anything else. that’s also been one of the secret delights about realizing my own queerness. i have so many close, incredible female friends that i don’t want to sleep with, but i love them deeply and would step in front of busses for them and yet, i also love my partner, in this incredible way that i had never been able to love a man before.
women are the coolest just like deeply the coolest creatures on the earth. other than dogs. maybe dogs then women.
tv: tell us about a trying time in your career. what kept you moving and what pushed you forward to where you are today?
mb: i’d say the most trying time in my career was the very beginning. my first pilot season was pretty dark. it was very exciting, but it was also made me feel like, i will never be pretty enough, it will never work, hollywood is for pretty people and pretty people only, there’s no room for quirkness or for me. it really dug deep. i went through the “i’m fat, i’m ugly” phase… it was so unlike me. it was really intense, and eventually i went upstate and spent a month with my favorite theater company, siti company, who are like my theater family. i adopted henry, my dog, and i came back to new york a totally different woman. i just needed to be reminded of my own power as an artist and that my career will be whatever it’s going to be, but i have to stay true to myself and my heart. ultimately, that’s what got me through it. the reality of hollywood being a place for a certain kind of person is extremely daunting, and that feeling hasn’t gone away, but i just don’t engage with it anymore. i don’t give it as much power as i did when i was 24.
tv: what is the most important piece of advice you can share with women who are struggling right now?
mb: my most important piece of advice would be to have a strong community and to go to therapy. learn some cognitive restructuring, because i know i struggle with very intense anxiety, without cognitive behavioral therapy i wouldn't have the tools to reframe my thinking.
spend good time with yourself; it’s really hard. it’s okay if you’re not feeling well right now. it will fall into place. things didn’t get easy for me until i was almost 30. i worked really hard in therapy to learn how to live with it. no, overcome it. not beat it, nothing like that, just learned how to let that anxiety be a part of my everyday life, too.
photo courtesy of peter yang/tv land
[original interview took place in 2019]
